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Seeing Ourselves in SexSex is a hot topic. Anywhere you look there’s a magazine, TV show, movie or conversation about sex. We’re so surrounded by it, yet we usually don’t see ourselves in it. How often are you walking in a mall and see a book cover or movie poster with a steamy cover featuring two men, two women or transgender people? Likely not often, if ever.

Sex between GLBT* people has historically been something that’s used against us. We were “homosexuals” and therefore pedophiles, we were defined by our behaviour and anyone who had same-sex sex was a criminal. If sex wasn’t used against us, it was used to define us.

The most ironic part is that even though GLBT* people have historically been tied to sex, there is little taught about GLBT* sex in our health and education system. The high number of GLBT* people with serious sicknesses is proof. In Winnipeg alone, 19 per cent of men who have sex with men are living with HIV, according to CATIE, a Canadian resource for information about HIV and
hepatitis C.
Would these numbers be

different if educators and health care professionals were more educated in safe GLBT* sex and talked more openly about it?

As Larkin Schmiedl shows you on page 8, sex education varies widely across the province, especially GLBT* topics in sex ed. With loose guidelines about what school divisions have to teach in sex ed class, we can’t be sure kids in Manitoba schools ever learn about GLBT* sex and health issues. They’re forced to learn on their own and they risk learning too late, if at all.

Luckily, as Denton Callander shows you on page 24, there has been serious discussion about
a new advancement in HIV prevention.

There’s a less political and less serious side of what happens between the sheets though.
Sex can be fun, awkward, embarrassing, uncomfortable or not even someone’s repertoire. On page 10, we explored the latter by talking about asexuality. We’re bombarded with sex all
the time; we’re blasting you with sex right now! With so much pressure in our world to have
sex, there is a lot people don’t understand about asexuality. Fortunately, we caught up with an expert to answer common questions.

On page 12, Larkin Schmiedl shows you that for some, getting steamy isn’t as easy as taking off your clothes and going at it. He spoke to some transgender people and asked how they navigate relationships and hookups through negotiation and communication.

On a lighter note, freelance writer Rebecca Henderson scoured the city to find the
best game of erotic bingo. Turn to page 26 and you will get a taste of some of the hilarious expressions erotic bingo regulars shout out.

Before you head out to erotic bingo, get in the mood with Brett Owen’s sexy playlist on page 21 and make yourself some food
to get in the mood with online editor Meg Crane’s recipes on page 22. Maybe once you get home you can even bust out
your homemade flogger, which we show you how to make on page 16.

Happy holidays and happy safe sex.

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